By K. Carter
1. Be the example of the character traits you would like to develop in your children.
You have probably heard the saying, “more is caught than taught.” It is true. If you want your
children to be truthful, then you need to be truthful. If you want them to serve others, let them
see you serving. If you want them to have an authentic relationship with Jesus, show them what
that looks like in your life. You have tremendous influence simply by the way you live your life in
front of them.
2. Be consistent with rules and consequences.
Challenge to your authority will happen. That doesn’t mean you are doing something wrong.
See those challenges as an opportunity to train and reach their heart by teaching them God’s
Truth on various matters. Our kids challenge us because they need to know where the
boundaries of right and wrong are. If the same rules apply as yesterday, who here is going to do
something about it if I disobey, anyway?
When we are consistent and clear, we make them feel secure because they know where the
boundary is, and they feel confident in our ability to lead them. If you are not consistent with
your rules and consequences, you are actually training your child to be more disobedient and
for them to challenge you more often. Why? They are always trying to figure out what the rules
are today and how much they can get away with....and will only find out by pushing the limits.
We have to consistently discipline for disobedience and teach our children to respect our
authority. This is an important truth for all parents: If you want your child to accept your values
and beliefs when they are older, it is essential that they see you as worthy of respect when they
3. Be intentional about your own choices to make sure they line up with God’s Word and the
legacy you hope to create.
Be careful about making decisions on the fly based on what is easiest, and most convenient at
the time. Little choices add up to setting the tone for our values: Choices like what we watch on
TV, where our priorities are, and how we spend our free time.
4. Be in prayer for your family and journal about your successes and failures.
Ask yourself, ‘What are my goals as a parent? What would I like our family to be like?” Journal
about those goals and start praying for those things. We need to know what it is that we want for
our family and set goals to get there. If you have no goals for your family, then you are
guaranteed not to reach any.
Being a parent isn’t easy....it’s hard work! Being a Godly parent takes wisdom, courage, and
patience mixed with big doses of grace and forgiveness.
When those difficult days come – and they will – we need to remember that God gave you your
children for a reason. He chose you to parent that child and He will equip you to do the job if you
allow Him to. Don’t let your frustration or distractions keep you from finding your purpose as a
Whether you are just beginning your parenting journey, or you have grown kids and you are
entering a new phase of parenting, embrace where you are at in the journey and make the most
of it! Enjoy your kids and have fun with them, because when it comes to parenting, the days
seem to drag on forever, but the years go by in the blink of an eye, and your kids are worth it!
Posted January 2, 2018 3:07pm
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